It’s Trifling To Fight On Disagreements In A Relationship
The politician you’re fighting for won’t help you to excel in your bedroom.
During a time when people are polarized far more than ever before, divided on trivial issues far more than ever before, end friendships on futile preoccupations, & get on the nerves of their peers, colleagues & even themselves to a point of no requiting — is a worrying sign. Especially when these disagreements turn into momentous political fights, and it’s more worrying when these things happen in a relationship, a relationship of love, care & compassion.
So how do you cease your urges to debate with your partner? Last year I read some articles on major news outlets & psychology journals on the same subject. What I learnt through reading them, which isn’t much, I must assure you, and distinguishing about the incidents, persons & circumstances mentioned there has abundantly ameliorated me to understand the intuition, science and psychology behind political arguments in relationships.
When you are arguing with your spouse or partner about political, social or economic issues of significance, then it’s better to understand that you’re not only arguing with them about their stances on issues, but you’re challenging their upbringing, their education, their brooded evolution, their mindset, their life experiences, & the relationship of theirs with you. It’s a great deal to debate on issues you know about and the issues you care about, can come on a common ground, are able to convince your opponent in favour of your stances, but still chooses to end up on the extreme side. It’s not worth it if you are going to lose your compassionate half when they are ready to come to a middle ground on the condition that your relationship doesn’t have anything to do with politics & your relationship doesn’t have anything to lose or gain from politics, as compassion & care are humane things, but politics more often than not turn inhumane and intimidating.
Great men are those who stand their ground, hold individual opinions, and act on it, instead of unfruitful debates in an unremunerative environment, that too with a non-political persona. That’s social suicide.
Unwanted political arguments can be replaced with anything that is way more exciting than politics, that could be a cricket match, a football match, a sunday special UFC fight, a movie, a TV show, or even a music streak. Always remember, & act accordingly, that political policies affect the public directly, that public include people like you and me, and your partner too, so don’t confuse policies with politics, or politicians, politicians going to be replaced some day, but most of the policies are here to stay, or at least will remain in force for a good amount of time, toxic arguments in defense or in favour of one politician could change your opponent’s mind for a while, not the policy enacted by the politician.
So, am I suggesting you that you shouldn’t act & raise objections to the politicians you deem idiots, and the policies you despise? Nope, nothing even closer to that. Acting indifferent is not inaction, never ever, sometimes it is better to remain silent & don’t act, instead of shouting out loud when you know nothing going to come out of it. You have other mediums to further your points of contention, like Medium, rather than fighting with your partner, your partner can’t change shit about any policy, nor could you, so better be you, be human, be reserved.
